It was not the thin, terrible sound of the hospital monitor flattening into a steady tone after eight brutal months of cancer had taken a man who had once seemed too large, too alive, too stubborn to be taken by anything. It was not the morning the oncologist stepped into Richard’s private room at Northwestern Memorial with that careful expression doctors use when they have run out of better words. It was not even the night Richard, once broad-shouldered and commanding, reached for her hand with fingers that had become almost weightless and whispered, “Ellie, promise me you’ll do what’s right, not what’s easy.”

No, Eleanor understood it on a gray November afternoon beside a mahogany casket while rain hammered against the green cemetery canopy in slow, relentless sheets.